Broken Bienséance

Sensitivity is a curse. Insensitivity is a curse.
. . .I've discovered that I find it difficult to get along with people who have little to no concept of manners or decorum. Nothing so rigid as formulaic conversations, but even just the basic greeting upon meeting face-to-face is something which I think is rather basic. People that I conveniently write off as being crude, obtuse, coarse, unrefined, brutish, etc. It's too easy for me to get offended by them, whether it's their barbaric gall to access my items without my permission, or the gaucherie required of them to physically touch me when it's clearly inappropriate and undesired.
. . .Hypocrites are also a sort of people I have difficulty with. Like a certain someone on a certain forum who's always ranting about the insolent and rebellious youth of today's society, tacitly implying that because of her(or his) antiquated sentiment for archaic diction that s/he is somehow more polite or proper, when her/his actual actions in verbally attacking others for their academic ignorance or youth are equally offensive. I don't get how people come off thinking they're better than someone else just because they've deluded themselves into thinking that posessing a certain form of etiquette.
. . .I mean, what's the entire purpose behind etiquette, decorum, tact? I've mentioned it before but I'll mention it again: too many people nowadays blindly follow archaic rules of conduct just because there were rules of conduct and they're archaic. But none of them actually actually pause to ponder the reasoning or rationale behind those rules. Frenzied fanatics who misguidedly attempt to live an ancient life in modern times.
. . .What was the purpose of it all, anyways? The real motivation should be to help make people feel welcome, not set up a social trap to accuse them of being uncivilized. Calling someone uncultured just because he doesn't dance to your music is hardly civil. False notions of superiority are clear signs that the person suffers from idiocy and tries to compensate by pushing others down.
. . .Having said that, I know that in the past I used to hold etiquette pretty highly. But I think I was mistaken. In fact, what I really wanted to say all this time is what I'm trying to say here. A good person isn't one who lives all those silly rules made up by drunk kings centuries ago. It's the person who has the care and sensitivity to accomodate others and try to make the other person feel as welcome as possible. Stiffly holding on to unnatural laws that hardly apply to the modern world will rarely make a person of a different culture feel welcome, especially when that other culture has no clear understanding of this foreign culture's extinct ways of life.
. . .I'm not saying that etiquette is a bad thing. I think it's good to investigate on how people in society might have approached different situations, but the important thing to always ask and understand is, why and how did it work in that society and era, and how would that translate in today's world with today's youth?
. . .I think that the truely uncultured people are not those who are unaware of older customs or of "higher-class" ways of life, but those who lack the sensitivity or observation to be able to see when someone is uncomfortable with an action, a touch or a word. After all, we are of the civilized world, no? Fine, then we shall live a civilized life. Barbarous oppositions, arguements, offences and insults have proven time and time again to be ineffective in winning someone over. You may prove your point, but you may be sure that they won't be eager to befriend you afterwards. A beautiful mind isn't just one that has a high intellectual capacity, but rather one that is able to get along with others without being condescending.
. . .So in short, I've said that it's wrong to insult people, and in doing so I've insulted people. Brilliant, I know. I wonder how many of you actually follow what I'm trying to say here; I've been feeling woozy for the past few hours. @_@ Are my words still coherent and cohesive?